The other day I told Brian that I had read the above saying on Facebook. I went on to say that the one thing I knew for sure was that Mason would be with me!!! And then I added oh and you too babe! Lets just I say THANK God about a million times a day for Mason compared to once or twice a day for the hubster. (Insert...I AM extremely thankful for my hubby too). Of course the hubby had to say something "nice" back. His "nice" response was that some days I don't even make the cut. Mean hubby!!! Good thing I know he doesn't mean it.
Moms of Boys Are Jealous Shrews, So Here's a Contract for Your Son's Future Wife...
The moment you bring a baby boy into the world, you start to wonder when he's going to leave you. That's right. You know that one day he'll leave you for another woman -- even though he'll propose to you all through toddlerhood and tell you that you are the only girl for him.
You're already quite certain that the woman he marries will probably resent you for being so awesomely cool. And you're betting she'll do whatever she can to break the strong bond you have with your sweet prince. Women say it's good to marry mama's boys, but they don't really want to deal with the mama part.
My husband has told me time and time again to cut the cord... no way! I'm waiting until that thing rots and falls off. I mean, for how much longer is he going to say "I love you" when he walks out the door, or hug me in front of his friends, or ask me to lie with him at night? Frankly, I don't know, but I won't be the one to stop it.
If he's 40 and wants me to lie with him and scratch his arm, I'll be all "Move over, Megan," or whatever his unappreciative, son-stealing wife's name is. (I would NEVER do this though)!!!
Let's be honest: he may be 5 now, but before we know it, he'll be shaving, and driving, and then he'll leave us to go to college somewhere cold. Then he'll get married and move to be near her mother, because that's what girls make boys do: move near their mothers! Then he'll be a father, and then one fine holiday he'll have "wifey" call us to cancel our plans. Then he'll try to make up for it by sending one of those Harry David gift baskets filled with pears, because he'll remember that we love pears, but they'll be bruised -- like our hearts.
No, we can't go down that road. We have to take a stand against son stealing right now.
We'll make those Jezebels pay... no, sign! Yes, a contract for us to make them sign, besides the pre-nup. That's right, like using WiFi in Starbucks, they'll have to agree to our terms.
This is a MIL-nup, and it goes like this:
I will compliment my mother-in-law's (MIL's) cooking, her decorating, and, most importantly, the incredible way she raised her son, my husband.
I will marvel at my MIL's beauty and miraculously never-aging skin every time I see her.
I will acknowledge that my MIL's son is on loan to me so that we can make grandbabies, which will probably look like her and have her wonderful traits, which I will mention in conversation frequently and with great fervor.
I will remind my husband to call my MIL daily, saying, "Have you told your mother you love her today? You should, she rocks." Plus, I will throw in phrases like this:
"That amazing woman raised you! You should call and thank her... again."
"You can truly never thank her enough."
"Let's go over and thank her in person."
"We should bring her a gift when we go."
"She's so deserving of gifts."
"Let's take her on vacation with us."
"And get her another gift."
"Maybe a beautiful locket with pictures of you and our children."
"No, I don't need to be in the pictures; she didn't raise me... unfortunately."
I will tell other women that their mothers-in-law are not as fabulous as mine, and I shall be willing to throw down in the event that said women disagree.
I will take my MIL to her weekly hair salon appointment and shopping at Loehmann's, when it is deemed necessary by age.
I will spend all holidays with my husband's family, because they are so awesome and gracious, and I realize how much mine sucks by comparison.
I will move to be near my MIL, whether she has retired to Century Village in Florida, decides to live in a nudist colony in Arizona, or goes bat-s**t crazy and moves to Alaska for the fresh sushi. She is so wise and wonderful that I'm sure her choice of habitat will suit me and my husband perfectly!
My MIL can so live with me and my husband when she's old and can't remember who I am.
There. You can print this to be signed when the inevitable happens. I just saved you from losing your sweet, sweet boy. You're welcome.
***The above only applies to Mason and his future wife...not me and my MIL cause I didn't sign no such contract...haha =o)***
Stats: Mason weighed 13lbs 12oz at the doctor last week (Monday) but with the way his appetite has been the last few days...I'm guessing (by today) he's definitely 14 pounds plus.
Sizes: As of this past Friday I officially put all of his 3 month clothing away. = ( He is now in 3-6 month or 6 month clothing. Some of it's a bit big but I would rather it be too big on him than too small. And he is wearing size 1-2 Pampers. (Brian ordered some size 1 Pampers (off Amazon) and after a few days of using them I noticed that they had sent us size 1-2's instead...whoops but oh well).
Food: Currently Mason breastfeeds about every 2.5-3 hours during the day and at night he gets a 5oz bottle. He was getting a 4.5oz bottle every night but as of this past weekend I upped that amount to 5oz and sometimes he still wants more...must have hit a growth spurt!!! Shortly after he hit the 2 month mark I started supplementing a little bit of formula into his night time bottle. So his night time bottle typically consists of about 3-3.5oz of breast milk mixed with 1.5-2oz of formula. I'm back to pumping only twice a day because lets be honest pumping is annoying. So I pump once in the morning and once at night. The morning pumping session always gives me enough (if not a little extra) for his night time bottle (now that I'm supplementing) and the night pumping session is always stored for later use. I still freeze anywhere from 5-10oz of breast milk every night.
Routine: He had a pretty good sleep/nap routine before he got sick...now not so much. He finally started feeling better (towards the end of last week) so we're trying (and praying) to get him back on a decent schedule. When he was at the peak of his illness Mason slept all the time but towards the end not only was he no longer sleeping through the night but he also refused to nap until oh maybe 3pm or so. Slowly (since feeling better) he has started taking a few cat naps throughout the morning/early afternoon and then I can always count on one good late afternoon nap. (A 2-3 hour nap from 3-6ish). Like I said above he is no longer sleeping through the night...boo hoo for me. He generally gets up once between 4 and 5 to eat and then again between 7 and 8. Still not a bad schedule so I know no one is going to feel sorry for me = ) but still hoping he gets back to his old ways!!!
I went back to work this past Friday so from here on out I will be working two 12's a week. I work every third weekend so on the weekends he will be with daddy and during the week he will be with his grandmas during the day and daddy in the evening (that is until mommy gets home). A nice little set up if I must say. On his not-with-mommy-days he gets 5-6 bottles instead of the boob...poor boy..he really loves the boob. I'm still trying to figure out how many ounces to give him. I made up five 4oz bottles on Friday and although my mom said he seemed content enough afterwards...she said that he would have taken more. And when I got home from work Brian said Mason was working on his second bottle in a row. (He ate 7oz that feeding...whoa nellers). So on Monday I made five 5oz bottles for my mother-in-law and for now we're sticking with that. While at work I try to pump at least 3 times plus once before I leave for work and once before I go to bed.
Developmental Milestones: Mason definitely reaches for things now. His favorite thing to grab hold of...mommy's hair. Ouch! But he'll also reach for things on his playmat (see below). Other milestone's include laughing FOR THE FIRST TIME (such a precious sound), finding his fingers, cooing "baby" talking like crazy, and holding up his head up for small amounts of time (see above).
Loves: Mason loves loves loves sucking on his fingers. He spits out his paci ALL.THE.TIME to get his fingers in. Mason also likes riding in his stroller and being outside. Oh and he definitely loves the boob!!!
I just found out this morning that my blog friend Heather (and her husband Ben) lost (this weekend) what they had hoped would be their precious Rainbow Baby. My heart is so sad for them. And to top things off...April 3 is their little boy Isaac's 1 year angelversary. If only God could answer WHY. Another blog friend (Erin) lost her precious baby girl two weeks ago at only 19 weeks gestation. Both struggle with infertility. If only God could answer WHY. Praying for God's everlasting love to surround them both.
Joy Comes In The Morning
If you've knelt beside the rubble of an aching, broken heart
When the things you gave your life to fell apart
You're not the first to be acquainted with sorrow, grief, or pain
But the Master promised sunshine after rain
Hold on, my child, JOY comes in the morning
Weeping only lasts for the night
Hold on, my child, JOY comes in the morning
The darkest hour means dawn is just in sight
To invest your seed of trust in God
in mountains you can't move
You have risked your life on things
you cannot prove
But to give the things you cannot keep
for what you cannot lose
Is the way to find the JOY God has for you
Hold on, my child, JOY comes in the morning
Weeping only lasts for the night
Hold on, my child, JOY comes in the morning
The darkest hour means dawn is just in sight.
William and Gloria Gaither
The nights of crying your eyes out...
...give way to days of laughter. Psalm 30:5
Trust in the Lord with all your heart... Proverbs 3:5a
A few weeks back Mason had his first play date with his friends Jude, Rhys, and Cohen. Unfortunately his buddies Ezra and Josiah couldn't join in the fun because they live out of town. So when my friend Janna said that they were coming into town last weekend...we made plans for another play date. And even though the boys all kind of do their own thing at this point...someday I just know that they'll have tons of fun playing together!!!
And the group is about to get even bigger since 3 more little ones will be joining the gang between July and October!!! Ezra and Josiah are going to be big brothers to a little sister and two of my other friends are expecting their first bundle of joys (one in September and the other in October). Many fun times to come...that's for sure!!!
Mason, Jude with Rhys, Josiah, Ezra, and Cohen
Mason and his buddy Rhys. Oh and Jude giving a peace sign!
So I blogged (last week Tuesday) how Mason hadn't been feeling well over the weekend but that it seemed like he was on the verge of feeling better. Well the "feeling better" part...not so much. (Last week) Tuesday night was a rough night for our little man. After drinking his night time bottle he started choking and coughing like crazy. (I think over the thick secretions in the back of his throat). After an hour he finally spit up/vomited a huge amount of his feed in addition to some thick nasty secretions. And because I was a little concerned I called his Pediatrician's office the following morning. The nurse said I was doing everything right and that it sounded more viral than anything else but if I was concerned that I could come in and get him checked out.
But after I made that phone call he again seemed to be on the mend so I decided to just wait it out. He was still coughing and quite congested but he didn't seem at all uncomfortable...until Saturday night that is. On the way home from his "cousin's" birthday party he just cried and cried (and this kid normally loves his car seat). But Sunday morning he seemed happy again. So Sunday afternoon we decided to go for a walk...BAD idea. He started screaming half way through the walk (we were a good 20 minutes from our house)...so I ended up carrying him vertically most of the way back (once he fell asleep I put him back in the stroller). He seemed okay when we got home. I fed him. I bathed him. And he was happy so we still went to our small group get together that evening. Of course que fussy baby again...it was just a social/get to know one another gathering so it wasn't that big of a deal. He eventually fell asleep in my arms. But the icing on the cake was how he acted Sunday during the night. He basically woke up every hour during the night because he would start coughing which would cause his paci to fall out which would cause him to start crying. Oh and I had to feed him 3 times. Let me remind you that he has slept through the night since about 7 and a half weeks.
So you guessed it...I called his doctor in the morning and made an appointment. I'm pretty Mason remembers him from 3 weeks ago (and not as his doctor but as the man who snipped at his penis...his eyes were always on Dr. M wherever he went)! Anyways Dr. M looked Mason over and then swabbed him for RSV (got a call from the office earlier today that it was negative!!!) However, we did find out that he had (still has) a right ear infection. So he is on his first round of antibiotics. Mason did not appreciate having a toothpick like thing stuck up his nose (for the swab) so to say he was fussy the rest of the night is an understatement. Que his first dose of tylenol :) Thankfully though my little man is feelings tons better today!!! Oh and since we were at the office they got a weight...Mason currently weighs 13lb and 12oz.
Waiting to see Dr. M...my sweet but sick little man.
The big bummer (besides Mason being sick) was that he was suppose to meet his friend Will yesterday. (One of my best friends from college had a little boy 8 weeks before me). Anyways Amy and her husband (who currently live in Denver) were visiting family in Chicago this week...so we had made plans to meet half way. I was so bummed but Mason comes first and there was no way he was in a mood to travel. BUT they are moving back to Chicago this summer so Will and Mason will most definitely have many future play dates together!!! Can't wait!
Last year I had just been implanted with Mason so we fore-went any major walking but this is a new year and WALK WE WILL!!! I am so excited to take part in my first March of Dimes walk on April 28. Hopefully just the first of many to come.
why we walk... When you walk in March for Babies, you give hope to the more than half a million babies born too soon each year. The money you raise supports programs in your community that help moms have healthy, full-term pregnancies. And it funds research to find answers to the problems that threaten our babies. We’ve been walking since 1970 and have raised an incredible $2 billion to benefit all babies.
what to expect... This year, more than 7 million people will join their family, friends and colleagues in 900 communities across the nation. Our volunteers and staff will encourage and support you in your efforts to raise awareness and funds. No matter if this is your first year or your 25th, you can expect the event to be fun, compelling and rewarding.
Mason came down with a nasty cold/cough/low grade fever this weekend. So this is what our weekend mostly consisted of...
LOTS OF SNUGGLE TIME...
For the past few days he would cough so hard it would make him vomit/have HUGE spit ups...poor baby. Mommy got really good at catching it. Daddy not so much. I'm glad he never spiked a "real" temp but it still stunk to see my little man so sick. Thankfully he's starting to feel a wee bit better today. And just in time because he has two play dates coming up within the next week!!!
A few weeks back when Brian and I were at a friend's house I saw a tag blanket that our friend had just made for her husband. After seeing it I decided to make one for Brian with Michigan fleece fabric on one side and NY Yankees fleece fabric on the other. (His two favorite teams).
The finished product!!!
When I went to pick out the fabric for Brian's blanket (at one of my favorite stores...Hobby Lobby) I saw a tag blanket on display with Michigan fabric on one side and Michigan State fabric on the other. I thought it would be the perfect baby gift for my brother (a Michigan fan) and his wife's (a State fan) baby boy (due in approx 6 weeks). However, when I mentioned this to my mom...she said that someone had already made them a blanket like that. So much for my good idea. Instead, I decided to make Mason a blanket too...an ALL Michigan blanket (no State fans in this house).
Last week was a slow week for us. Since the weather was a little yucky Mason and I pretty much stayed home. Neither of us left the confines of our house on Thursday or Saturday. Only I left Monday (to run some errands) and Wednesday (to go to Bible Study). Which means Mason only left the house a mere 3 times last week :) Sunday he went to church and then lunch at Gpa and Gma V's, Tuesday was his lovely doctor appointment, and on Friday he got to go to the Kroc Center with his cousins (oh and he got to run a few errands with mom and dad at night).
On Thursday Mason chilled in his bumbo for the very first time!!! He really dislikes tummy time and since his neck is already pretty strong...I thought why not continue to strengthen the neck muscles this way instead.
When we stay home all day long...we stay in our PJ's...don't you!
Like I mentioned above Mason and I went to the Kroc Center on Friday (with my mom, my sister, and all of my nieces and nephews). This was Mason's first (of many) big excursion with all of his cousins!!! I won't say he had a blast but his cousins sure did. We're hoping to go back during Springbreak so my sis-in-law can join in on all the fun...she's a teacher so she was (obviously) at work. But since my mom was watching her kiddos she thought that it would be a fun excursion for all the cousins and she was right!!! And a trip to McDonald's afterwards made it that much better!
This little stinker was SUCH a daredevil...this is the deep end but he didn't care. And just so you all know I cut my mom out of the picture...she was right next to him! She told me the next day that she was sore from chasing him all around :)
One of the cutest daredevils I know!!!
Mason's first time in a pool.
All fun and games until someone Mason gets splashed ;)
All tuckered out while his cousins continued to play!
"I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11
Our 1st IVF Miracle... Mason Dale
Our 2nd IVF Miracle...Molly Elayne
Our "One in a Million" Miracle...Crew Bryer
Love begins before a baby is born...and that love will live forever in our hearts. When you lose a baby, you lose not only the promise of a very special human being, but you lose many beautiful hopes and dreams as well.
Saying Good-Bye For Now...
"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit." Psalm 34:18
Six Years Later...
We simply do not see the bigger picture, but we choose to believe that there is a bigger picture and that our loss is a part of some wonderful story authored by God himself.